Loving, over “being right”
Love does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrong, but rejoices in the right. -I Corinthians In the movie, My Fair Lady, Rex Harrison sings in exasperation: "Why can't a woman be more like a man? . . . Why can't a woman be like me?" It shouldn’t be surprising that this was a very popular song in a popular movie back in the fifties and sixties. In every emotional relationship, even if we don't put it into words, each of us has a rigid set of expectations which requires the other person to act and think in a particular way. Interestingly enough, the way we expect them to act is not that person's way; it is our own. When he or she acts differently, we get surprised and feel irritated or disappointed. If we could see behind the scenes, in the mind, this sort of encounter would make a good comedy. Here I am, relating not to you but to my idea of you, and I get irritated because you insist on acting your